There Is No Reason To Meditate

Gyms are packed with shiny iPod armbands the first week of January, and unpacked by week 3.

Drive-Thru and Mindfulness

Those that ditched the iron dungeon discovered losing 30 pounds is more like wine-making than like grabbing a sweaty paper sack from a drive-thru window.

Perseverance is passé. It’s the norm now to quit when we’re not instantly-gratified. Now or never.


When we meditate for any reason other than to meditate — or when we go to the gym for any reason other than to go to the gym — we’re setting ourselves up for failure.

Meditation may lead to less stress, more focus, more blissful, less bitterness.  But those are just byproducts, not the destination.  There is no destination in meditation.

A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving.  – Lao Tzu

Being Present When We’re Feeling Down In The Dumps

It’s OK to be grumpy.

Grumpy and Mindfulness

Mindfulness is noticing all our feelings, even not-so-happy ones.

“I accept where I am in this moment” is step 1 in shifting from Grumpy to Happy.

Chinese Finger Trap and Mindfulness

Struggling and resisting leads to getting more stuck.

When we tend to our grumpy feelings and when we shower ourselves with love — especially during the inevitable slumps — then the shift takes care of itself.  Grumpy becomes Happy.  Automatically. No incantations necessary.

Serenity Now and Mindfulness

Seinfeld taught us: Shouting “Serenity Now!” doesn’t work.

This practice — noticing our feelings and loving ourselves no matter what — works because: (1) We don’t get tangled up in the drama and (2) Love solves most “problems.”